post tenebras lux: tangledinthought: I don’t understand why recovery blogs list their low... →
I don’t understand why recovery blogs list their low weights, current weights, and goal weights. If you’re recovering, shouldn’t you be moving away from being obsessed with weights? It’s really off-putting to me when I go to someone’s “recovery blog” and the first thing in…
because even though we are recovering, first of all everyone will be asking us and it’s just easier to show it, and also because it shows us where we came from and how far we have come from that. we no longer want to be that, we are stronger. i don’t see anything wrong with posting it., it is JUST a number.
It isn’t JUST a number to anyone who asks. A number does not “show where you’ve been” because it isn’t a measure of your sickness. Weight is not a sign of how sick you are or aren’t. Where you have come from and how far you have come should be evident in the changes in your perspective and in the emotional pain that you suffered because of your eating disorder. The people who ask for that number will generally judge the severity of your illness on that number alone, and we all need to move away from defining our identity, our emotional state and the severity of our suffering based on that number. We should be able to communicate our thoughts and feelings, positive and negative, with words and not numbers. Yes, people ask, but that’s an opportunity to educate them on why the number shouldn’t matter. All of that aside, posting the number gives into this sick disordered need to compare how “bad” someone’s eating disorder is in comparison to another person’s, or how thin someone is in comparison to someone else.
We are all more than numbers. We have all suffered. I agree with tangledinthought. There’s no purpose to posting numbers on a recovery blog.
I apologize if I have offended anyone, but this is my opinion.
(via thehealthymind)
